Hello my dear ones,
Today I came across a psychological article that presents a supposed everyday worry of parents in a completely new, fascinating light. The question is: Why do many children show their most „difficult“ and highly emotional behavior precisely in the presence of their own mother, while they are often considered true angels with teachers, educators, or strangers? The scientific explanation behind this is as touching as it is logical: Children do not do this to annoy their mothers, but because the mother is their absolutely safest haven. With her, they do not have to wear a mask, but can finally completely release all the accumulated stress of the day.
Masking and the Overloading of the Internal System
Throughout the day, our children are exposed to enormous stimuli and social expectations at school or kindergarten. In order to survive there, they adapt, suppress their impulses, and function. However, this permanent holding together means immense hard work for their highly sensitive nervous system. It remains for hours in a state of heightened alertness – a mild form of survival mode. Only when the child sees their mother does the brain instantly signal: „Danger is over, you are completely safe.“ At that precise moment, the painstakingly maintained protective shell drops, and the system discharges in the form of tears, anger, or defiance. It is an act of deepest primal trust.
The Direct Parallel to Our Physical Foundation
When we look closely at this psychological phenomenon, we immediately recognize the exact parallel to our own body and the philosophy of JULION CENDARA. Just like children, we adults mask our physical needs every single day. We force our feet for hours into rigid, unnatural, and far too tight plastic shoes because the societal structure or career demands it. We suppress the pain, ignore the tightness, and force our body to stubbornly function. This permanent confinement continuously puts the nervous system into an artificial state of stress via the soles of our feet. We pretend everything is fine while our foundation silently suffers.
Liberation Through Stubborn Serenity and Pure Nature
True healing only begins when we give our system back an environment that radiates unconditional safety and absolute freedom. When we throw off the tight shells and give our feet the vital space of a natural toe box and the grounding of flat soles made of pure, renewable raw materials, we signal to our brain: „You are allowed to let go now.“ Just like the child with the mother, the nervous system of the foot can finally completely discharge all the accumulated physical stress in a natural shoe. The muscles can relax, the blood circulation flows freely, and we regain our beloved, deeply stubborn serenity.
Safety does not mean permanently holding oneself together or allowing oneself to be pressed into rigid shapes. True strength and independence – whether emotional, physical, or financial – grow from creating these safe spaces for ourselves. Spaces where we do not need any artificial masks, but can rest completely calmly and firmly upon our own, natural foundation.
All the best,
Yours Jutta Arntz
JULION CENDARA ✨